1. I've been romantic and imaginative. pragmatic and down to earth.
2. I have tended to take on confrontations. avoid confrontations.
3. I have typically been diplomatic, charming, and ambitious. direct, formal, and idealistic.
4. I have tended to be focused and intense. spontaneous and fun-loving.
5. I have been a hospitable person and have enjoyed welcoming new friends into my life. private person and have not mixed much with others.
6. It's been difficult for me to relax and stop worrying about potential problems. difficult for me to get myself worked up about potential problems.
7. I've been more of a "street-smart" survivor. "high-minded" idealist.
8. I have needed to show affection to people. preferred to maintain a certain distance with people.
9. When presented with a new experience, I've usually asked myself if it would be useful to me. enjoyable.
10. I have tended to focus too much on myself. others.
11. Others have depended on my insight and knowledge. strength and decisiveness.
12. I have come across as being too unsure of myself. sure of myself.
13. I have been more relationship-oriented than goal-oriented. goal-oriented than relationship-oriented.
14. I have not been able to speak up for myself very well. been outspoken—I've said what others wished they had the nerve to say.
15. It's been difficult for me to stop considering alternatives and do something definite. take it easy and be more flexible.
16. I have tended to be hesitant and procrastinating. bold and domineering.
17. My reluctance to get too involved has gotten me into trouble with people. eagerness to have people depend on me has gotten me into trouble with them.
18. Usually, I have been able to put my feelings aside to get the job done. needed to work through my feelings before I could act.
19. Generally, I have been methodical and cautious. adventurous and taken risks.
20. I have tended to be a supportive, giving person who enjoys the company of others. serious, reserved person who likes discussing issues.
21. I've often felt the need to be a "pillar of strength." perform perfectly.
22. I've typically been interested in asking tough questions and maintaining my independence. maintaining my stability and peace of mind.
23. I've been a bit cynical and skeptical. mushy and sentimental.
24. I've often worried that I'm missing out on something better. if I let down my guard, someone will take advantage of me.
25. My habit of being "stand-offish" has annoyed people. telling people what to do has annoyed people.
26. I have tended to get anxious if there was too much excitement and stimulation. to get anxious if there wasn't enough excitement and stimulation.
27. I have depended upon my friends and they have known that they can depend on me. not depended on people; I have done things on my own.
28. I have tended to be detached and preoccupied. moody and self-absorbed.
29. I have liked to challenge people and "shake them up." comfort people and calm them down.
30. I have generally been an outgoing, sociable person. earnest, self-disciplined person.
31. I've wanted to "fit in" with others—I get uncomfortable when I stand out too much. stand out from others—I get uncomfortable when I don't distinguish myself.
32. Pursuing my personal interests has been more important to me than having comfort and security. Having comfort and security has been more important to me than pursuing my personal interests.
33. When I've had conflict with others, I've tended to withdraw. rarely backed down.
34. I have given in too easily and let others push me around. been too uncompromising and demanding with others.
35. I've been appreciated for my unsinkable spirit and resourcefulness. deep caring and personal warmth.
36. Much of my success has been due to my talent for making a favorable impression. achieved despite my lack of interest in developing "interpersonal skills."
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